Ending a marriage is not an easy decision to take, whether there is deep unhappiness and dissatisfaction, betrayal, or abuse and violence. Whatever the reason for wanting out.

One or both parties may be unwilling to take the plunge because there is still so much stigma, shame, and fear surrounding divorce.

Many people stay on in painful and traumatic marriages for the sake of the children, but remember that children are also deeply impacted by living in abusive and toxic households.

Whatever becomes their norm, they are more likely to recreate the same dynamics in their own, adult relationships.

If you have already tried counselling, family intervention, therapy, and all possible avenues to try and save your marriage, but are now seriously considering a divorce.

Here are the top 10 things to do before you implement your decision to break up: